As you grow the range of connections you make increases. You can make connections that are vivid and enriching with others around the world whom you may not know personally, may not have a name or location for, but with whom you feel a deep affinity.
Such connections are possible when you feel safe, safe to be yourself, safe in your relationship with the world. Perhaps in the past you have used criticism and judgement as a way of creating a space in which you could feel safe. Your judgement would push others away and gave you a territory of rightness you could claim as your own.